This is for the girls with boyfriends. Currently smitten, an unfortunate ex, or if you’ve got an imaginary boyfriend, this is for you, lady 😊
Here’s a few things you should know about boyyyysssss:
1. Not all boys are bad<<<<<<<<
pecies in general has a bad rep for being “losers”, “dumb”, or undeserving of a girl like you. Ok, so maybe some guys are that way. Understandable. But I would imagine that it’s unattractive to always be calling guys dumb. I mean, after all, The One the Lord has for you is better than you could imagine. Would you think he would fall into the “loser” category? (Let’s hope not), but generalizing them like that doesn’t sound very nice.
2. Shoot for intentional relationships.
My thing has always been “I don’t want a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. I want it to be purposeful”. And that’s true. I never saw myself as having three boyfriends within the course of three months. So far, I’ve had 2 relationships and I’ve gone into both with intention. Good intentions. I let both boys know at the beginning what my view on dating is. Dating, to me, is being with someone you could possibly see yourself marrying one day. Because if you’re dating intentionally, why would you date someone for no reason, right? There’s a 50/50 possibility that this guy will be your future husband and there’s an equal possibility that he could be your future ex. Prepare yourself for both sides of the equation.
3. After one (or multiple) breakups, don’t lose hope. Something better is coming.<<<<<<<<
riends who have had multiple break ups and end up feeling hopeless because it seems like nobody is into them or nothing’s working out. But, patience, grasshopper. 😉 You have to be willing to wait. I’m not trying to sound like an advice columnist here, cause I’m trying to tell myself this too.
4. Your WORTH doesn’t come from him
This one that has been stirring inside of me for the last month or so. A month and half or so ago, I went through my first breakup. I didn’t see it coming and it hurt. Bad. I’m still getting asked about it and him and what happened, but the Lord has given me an answer to tell everyone that asks: “I’m ok. My worth doesn’t come from ______. It comes from God.” It’s that simple. My worth is greater than the approval of a boyfriend, girls in my small group, people who hear me sing, boys who think I’m pretty, or people who think I draw good. I am a masterpiece in the Hand of the Creator. He created me with a purpose and a plan. I know ______ and ____ were apart of that plan in a small way and I’m grateful for the lessons that their small part in the plan helped me learn. In Proverbs 31:25, it says “She is clothed with strength and dignity. She laughs without fear of the future.” The Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t pull her strength from her man or the world she lives in. It comes from her God and solely her God.
5. It’s ok to be happy for your friends.w that I’m newly single (that doesn’t mean on the market though, by the way), I’m now realizing how many of my friends actually are dating. I didn’t really realize it until I didn’t have that in common with them anymore. I almost felt sad that I couldn’t relate anymore, but truth is, it’s ok to be happy for them. It’s ok to be a little bummed about your current situation, because you are human after all. But the Bible says we should rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep (Romans 12:15). Be happy for them because they’re happy. 😊
So, get up and be who you were created to be. You were not created in the image of your boyfriend (current, ex, or imaginary). You both were created to praise Him. Together. Pursue the Lord first. In Him, you will find rest and the answers. 💕