No. 14: Being Miss “It”

Normally when I write, I try to write in a way that everyone can relate to it. Especially having men, women, teen, and pre-teen readers. For this post, I’m going to tell you about something from two perspectives that girls go through. So guys, just replace pronouns:

Watching Miss “It”:

Wow. She’s so beautiful. She does her makeup and dresses in really nice clothes.

I want to be just like her.

Wow. She’s really nice to everyone. She’s really funny. I wonder how I can do that.

I want to be just like her.

Wow. She has her life together. She’s really popular and boys like her. She’s really cool.

I want to be just like her.

That ^ was 6-11 year old me looking up to none other than…Miley Cyrus. You have to understand that Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus was living my dream. Even then I wanted to travel and sing.

I still remember what it was like to think she was everything. One year I even had a Hannah Montana birthday party. Miley was IT. But I also remember the sinking feeling of being let down by Miss “It”. She fell short of my 11-year-old expectations. She denounced her famous alter ego (which was basically like throwing my childhood on the ground and stomping all over it). It wasn’t the fact that she unassociated herself with something positive that she was famous for; it was all in the way she didn’t care about who she hurt in the process. I decided that if I was ever someone that a little girl would look up to, I would never do that to her.

Being Miss “It”:

Wow. They’re looking at me like I’m the most beautiful girl in the world. They tell me I’m pretty and they think I wake up looking like that.

I can’t let them know that I don’t.

Wow. They’re listening to what I say. I have to be careful how I come across, because they pick up everything.

I can’t let them see me slip.

Wow. They think I have my life together. They think I have a billion friends and all the boys love me. They think I’m cool.

I can’t let them know that I’m a real person and these years don’t look like High School Musical.

AHere I am, 5-8 years later, and I’m in the opposite position. Granted, I’m not on Disney Channel with millions of little girls looking up to me. But I don’t need those stats to know that I’m being watched by girls younger than me (and sometimes even the same age).

I take being looked up to very seriously. It’s my responsibility to set a pure, wholesome, Christ-like image for girls who need guidelines on how to act.

Whether you’re looked up to, look up to me, or look up to someone else, here’s the deal:

1. If you think I’m pretty, thank you. But I don’t wake up the way that you see me on Instagram or in person. That is a byproduct of the hard work of applying makeup. Outer beauty isn’t everything. The inside of your heart and how you treat people say a LOT about you and how you lead. There are no rules about having to have the highest end clothes or best quality makeup to be someone that somebody can look up to.

2. Your words lay imprints on people. They can be fruitful or poisonous. Choose wisely 😉

3. I don’t have my life together and neither does that other person you look up to. If anyone says they do, then they lied. You don’t have to have all your ducks in a row to be a role model to someone. Being transparent is the best bet on being real and authentic.

There are two girls that I always think back on when I’m making decisions that could effect my leadership or the way people could think of me. Or even jokes I make, my reactions to situations, or my perseverance to keep up with things. We’ll call them S & A.


These girls have given me a reason to think about myself and why I do the things I do. Everyone needs someone to look up to. Even if they’re younger than you. I hold these two in the highest regards. I love them both very much. I think of them when I see other little girls that are looking to me to see what to do.


The responsibility of being Miss “It” isn’t a light one. It’s takes a lot out of you and you’re always on guard about how you have to come across to the ones that look up to you.

When you think about how you don’t care who is watching, what you say, or what you do, just remember that someone younger than you is still learning how to act. Teach them how to love, be loved, and teach how to be God’s people again.


I’m not here to tell you how to be a role model. But when you are at crossroads of not knowing how to handle a situation, think of your S & A. Lead and love as if they were watching.

Verse: “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.”

‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭

Song: “Look Like Love” by Britt Nicole from the album Gold(2012)

“Hands of God (feat. Matt Hammitt)” by Francesca Battistelli from the album If We’re Honest(2014)

“It’s Your Life” by Francesca Battistelli from the album My Paper Heart (2008)

2 Replies to “No. 14: Being Miss “It””

  1. You never cease to amaze me with your insights. So proud of the Christian examples you show to not only your S&A but as you said others young and old. I pray you continue to grow in Godly truth and wisdom. I love you and am thankful God blessed us with you!! 😘

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  2. Wow Chayli, you are really truly something special. It takes a very strong person to lead the way and be a role model with all eyes on you. It’s hard to not mess up but to still be human in front of everyone. You’ve always had such a strong character and stance of who you are an I admire that so much. Love you

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